In
a society that has jettisoned recourse to common sense as a means to
settle matters, all takes on reality are, it seems, up for grabs.
All actions, particularly those involving sexual consent, can
simultaneously be thought of as right
and wrong.
The world says, clearly, loudly, repeatedly, that it is wrong to discourage any sexual urge -- except of course when it isn't.
This is regardless of the age, marital connection to, gender,
prior acquaintance, blood relation, other commitments, oh heck,
species of the object of that sexual urge.
Except, of course when those things
do matter, and
should be regarded.
An elderly politician
may
go on trial for having engaged in sexual activity with his
beloved and loving wife, who had Alzheimer's and was in a nursing
home.
A poster in the combox at the linked article says that though he
has often stated, "I would not wish a burden similar to mine on
my worst enemy....I ‘d be tempted to reconsider that kindness for"
those who seem responsible for pushing this malicious prosecution, and I'm tempted to agree.
A more complete
treatment
of the case is at Bloomberg.
My volunteer activities in the "memory wing" of a
nursing home don't give me any particular insight into this
situation, but they do provide me with experience of drastic
differences in dementia patients' levels of autonomy, of
self-actuation and motivation, and more to the point, the drastic
differences a single person may present, from week to week, even from
moment to moment.
I imagine that, yes, this man from time to time offered attentions
that were unwelcome at that particular moment, or that were welcome a
split second earlier and no longer were.
But of course, so did the nurses, and the daughters, the and the
CNAs, (and probably ministers,) - their attentions would have been of
hygiene, beverages and therapy,(and probably prayer and the Blessed
Sacrament,) rather than of affection.
But common sense, people!
That people colluded to deprive this old man of his wife and yes,
this old woman of her husband, is just cruel.
Oh, one last
thing,
an opinion forged from one too many personal experiences - any family
member who does NOT, as this poor man was said to, have "difficulty following parameters set by
[a nursing home or hospital] staff" isn't paying attention.
And
probably doesn't deserve to be called "family.".