Which would you rather be told, that you are "intrinsically disordered" or "deliberately sinful"?
I do not suffer under the cross borne by people to whom the first expression is applied by Catholic theology, so perhaps I have no right to an opinion.
But it seems to me that to denounce wording that says homosexuals have “gifts and qualities” is wrong, and a little foolish.
ALL persons have “gifts and qualities,” ALL persons are made in the image and likeness of God.
This is not to say that all gay persons have the same “gifts and qualities” but it is not impossible that there is some specific value to the rest of the Body of Christ that they share - the opportunity for the rest of us to learn to embrace sinners who sins we don't share or even understand, perhaps?
And it is certainly true that human flaws of one kind and another often create a great empathy in the ones burdened with them. (Drunken poets and emotionally disturbed actors come to mind, they are such cliches...)
Is it so wrong to acknowledge that?
This is a wonderful, (new to me,) Catholic blogger who suffers from same sex attraction, Joseph Sciambra.
Really worth reading.
Do gay people need to be "singled out" in commending their gifts, in being "welcomed"?
Certainly some of them seem to feel unwelcome, unacknowledged, in some places.
Whether their perception is correct or not does not change the fact that they feel this way.
I remember a few years ago a woman on a Catholic forum getting very exercised about how unwelcoming parishes could be to ex-priests and their wives.
I thought she was crazy, but that's not to say her feelings weren't real.